Can You Start Dating During a Divorce?

Divorces can be emotionally taxing and time-consuming, leaving you eager to move forward with your life even before a court finalizes your Judgment of Absolute Divorce. A common question many people have is, “can you start dating during a divorce?” Although this decision is a personal one, rather than a legal one, there are several considerations to keep in mind before you enter into a new relationship while your divorce is still pending.

Here are five things to think about when considering whether to date during your divorce:

1. Always Put the Best Interests of Your Children First

Divorce can have a major impact on your child and it’s crucial to put their best interests first and foremost at all times. Divorce is already difficult for children, introducing a new partner during the divorce process can further impact a child’s sense of stability and security. Ensure your child’s routine remains consistent and that their emotional needs are met to provide a sense of stability and security to them during this delicate time. If you do plan on dating while your divorce is pending, only plan dates for days or evenings that do not interrupt your parenting time.

It’s also important to research your new partner’s background for any criminal history, addiction, or substance abuse issues. Child custody can be impacted if your spouse finds the welfare of your child would be put at risk because of the company you keep — or if your actions could be harmful to the child. Additionally, avoid introducing a new partner to your children too soon. Give your children several months to process and adjust to the demise of the marriage, and ensure that your new relationship is likely to be long-term before involving them.

2. Be Aware of Any Legal Complications That Could Arise

If you’re thinking about dating during a divorce, it’s essential to be aware of any legal complications that could arise. Although infidelity is no longer a ground for divorce in Maryland, it can still be taken into consideration when it comes to property distribution and alimony. If it appears you were having an affair during the marriage, a judge may consider this factor when issuing a monetary award, dividing your marital assets or awarding alimony. Moreover, if your new partner benefited financially from the use of marital assets, a judge may find “dissipation” (the wasting of marital assets at a time when the marriage is irretrievably broken), which could entitle your spouse to a larger property award.

3. Keep Conflict to a Minimum with Your Soon-to-be Former Spouse

Dating during a divorce can create tension between soon-to-be former spouses. Sometimes, it can even turn a low-conflict matter into a high-conflict case. While emotions are running high, it’s best to be discreet about a new relationship and refrain from publicly flaunting it or posting about it on social media. It’s also a bad idea to bring a boyfriend or girlfriend to your legal proceedings. Introducing a new partner at this stage can increase any feelings of anger and resentment your spouse might have — and make it harder to reach an amicable settlement agreement.

4. Make Sure You’re Emotionally Ready for a New Partnership

Entering into a new relationship after divorce is a big step. Although it is natural to seek companionship when going through this tough and lonely time, you need to be emotionally prepared if you’re going to be dating during a divorce. Processing the emotions of your divorce is vital, and rushing into a new relationship can make it difficult to address the pain of your marriage ending. Take the time you need to heal and rediscover yourself. Seeking therapy or joining a support group can be alternative ways to address your emotional needs and self-reflect. Prioritizing self-care allows you to heal and grow, preparing you for a healthier and more rewarding relationship in the future.

5. Consider Waiting Until Your Divorce is Finalized

Dating during a divorce is not illegal, but it may be wise to wait until your divorce is finalized before starting a new romantic relationship. Doing so can help to mitigate any additional conflict that could arise in your case, especially if children are involved. It is also a bad idea to date if your spouse is still living in the same house as you since this can increase the potential for litigious issues. Waiting to date can help ensure you take the time you need to heal, allow your children time to adapt, and avoid complications in your legal matter.

Contact an Experienced Maryland Divorce Attorney

Entering into a new relationship while your divorce proceedings are ongoing is a highly personal decision. However, it’s crucial to have a compassionate and skillful attorney by your side who can best advise you on the implications of dating during your divorce case. To learn about the divorce and family law services we offer, contact Strickler, Platnick & Hatfield to schedule a consultation.